Just a fable for the masses….
There is a brand new car just sitting on the side of the road in front of your house. Its beautiful, and its one you’ve wanted to test drive for quite some time. Its the perfect color.. the perfect make.. and to add to your excitement it is very similar to one you’ve been promised by your father. Its the one that you will own yourself in a few short months.
You are extremely curious as to how it drives. You wonder how it will perform, how it will handle. The owner gets out of his car and nods to you as he heads inside the house. After he’s left the car unattended, You walk closer and notice that the keys are sitting inside on the seat. The doors are locked, but the windows are open enough to where you can reach your hand inside.
You decide it wouldn’t hurt to take it around the block.. you even invite a passing friend to come sit in it with you as you take a quick spin. You have your joyride, then return the vehicle to where it had previously been parked.
The police knock on your door because you were observed taking the vehicle… and you now have to pay a fine.
Who’s fault is it you took the joyride?
The car’s owner who left the car unattended in your presence with the key sitting in the seat and the window rolled down?
The Policeman who knocked on your door?
You may get frustrated, and not be happy that your quick spin got net you some actual repercussions.. but lets be level headed. There is only one reasonable answer to whose fault it is, and why you are in the predicament you are in.
…. and its not the one where you blame the owner.. or get angry because you were caught.
Character and grace is something allows one to own up, understand and hopefully learn from their past mistakes.
Reactions of anger on the other hand prevent us from growing and keep us in a state of frustration. If you can never recognize what it is in truth that has landed you where you are, then you are doomed to remain frustrated and angry because you simply don’t get it. You can’t fix things when you are focused on the wrong cause.